My son has returned?

I am an American who has lived in Israel since I was 14. Now I'm in the Netherlands (just to introduce myself). My first born son, Yarden, was born just over 8 years ago. At the age of 2 he contracted cancer, and underwent many treatments and operations until he finally died at the age of 4 (Sept. 26th, 1998). He was an amazing child, so full of optomism and positive energy. He fought his illness with enormous strength and a broad smile, and lots of laughs. He had an infectious giggle that would always cause me to laugh too.
While he was sick we had a daughter, Naomi (who is 5 today), and then just over one year after Yarden's death, I became pregnant with Yoav (who is now 2).
I had one vivid "announcing dream" where Yoav had blond curly hair and blue eyes (he actually has the curls, but brown eyes) and he was wearing one of Yarden's favorite baby outfits - with blue and white stripes. In this dream he came straight out of my belly (Yarden was born by c-section) and was wearing the striped outfit.

When Yoav was born, it was quite remarkable how much he looked like Yarden, but also Naomi looked a lot like them both at birth (my husband's genes).
But soon after his birth, I noticed an interesting birth mark. Yoav has a puckered scar on one of his ears, just like the mark that Yarden had from a mosquito bite he got when he was 9 months old. I find it interesting that none of the many scars that Yarden got from his operations have been passed on - but only that from when he was still well. Perhaps this shows that the cancer is nowhere near Yoav, and so the only scar that passed on was from an innocent mosquito bite.

Yoav has Yarden's dark brown (almost black) eyes, his quick laughter and amazingly grown up sense of humor and the same rolling giggle.

The other day I was going out and left the kids with a babysitter. My daughter Naomi (5) was very unhappy and clung to me. I just couldn't leave. Finally Yoav (2) came up to her and took her hand and led her away gently in his grown up manner.

Yoav speaks all the time, but it's still mainly uncomprehensible, (also poor boy he's learning to speak English, Hebrew and Dutch all at once). So I don't know yet if he'll say anything that relates to Yarden and the life we had then.

A few days ago, we held the Jewish day of rememberence for Yarden, - we lit a candle and watched a video that we have of him. Interesting, Yoav turned his back and really wouldn't watch. Usually he's quite a TV and video freak (just as Yarden was since Yarden was often home-ridden and that was his main form of entertainment).

In many ways, including the strong bond I feel with Yoav, I feel he may have Yarden's soul in him. But of course I treat him just as a new child - the baby now in my family. He is so much like Yarden - also extremely strong willed - but he's also so much different - for one thing - so much healthier!

I don't know if he's Yarden's soul, but it comforts me to think that part of Yarden is back with me.

I just finished reading Return From Heaven, which needless to say I identified with totally.

Anyone have any thoughts?

Thank you,

Audrey

From what you have written I would say that there is a very good chance that your son has come back as your new son. We can never know why things happen as they do, and it is always very heart warming to know that second chances happen.

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If all the World's a stage, and we are merely players. Who wrote the blasted script???

Thank you DarkElf, for your reply. I enjoy my son Yoav, whether or not he is a reincarnation of Yarden, but of course,the possibility that he is - gives me double the pleasure. Naomi too is a wonderful child. She has some issues - loud noises, especially that frighten her, and when she was really small - about 2.5 or 3 she used to always warn me about driving too fast, and she'd especially get hysterical going over bridges, even though from her vantage in the car, she could hardly tell it was a bridge.
Both grandparents also mentioned this to me. I believe she may have some past life issues that disturbed her. But now she doesnt' mention the driving or bridges, and she's just afraid of loud noises (she hates going to the movies for example).
Have a safe weekend,

Audrey
Life is like a jigsaw puzzle, but you can't see the picture and you don't always know if you have all the pieces.

Dear Audrey,

Yoav is approaching the average age at which children start speaking about previous lives, about 33 months (if I'm not mistaken). I'm based at the Netherlands too, so if he does, please contact me as I would like to investigate the case.

Best wishes,

Titus Rivas
Athanasia Foundation
Darrenhof 9
6533 RT Nijmegen
titusrivas@hotmail.com

Titus,

I will certainly let you know if he starts saying anything interesting or past life related. In the meantime he is only 25 months old, and he is learning English, Dutch and Hebrew all at once, so his language skills may be delayed slightly.
What is it you do exactly, may I ask? Please feel free to email me directly if this is not information you wish to share on the forum.

All the best,

Audrey

Audrey,

I just wanted to say that I really enjoyed reading your post. You are so blessed!

Hi all,

Lately Yoav has been saying (while at home), "Go home, go home". I wonder if this is a normal thing for a kid to say when he's 2 and at home? We arrived in the Netherlands when he was 9 months old, and moved houses in June (3 months ago). So I don't think he's refering to another house, as we have replicated his room here - with the same pictures on the walls, same bed, etc.

Yarden of course used to say he wanted to go home a lot - especially when he was in the hospital - getting chemo treatment or having to be hospitalized.

Any thoughts you guys?

Thanks,

Audrey

Audrey:

Any thoughts? I think you have said it well. He used to say that when he was getting treatments. Sounds like a logical explaination to me. Are you questioning your assumptions so far? I think a Mother KNOWS. I have a great respect for your revelations. In Carol's book (well, at least in her radio show)there was a documented case where a child returned to the same Mom after a death due to illness. Even got mad that some of the toys were gone! Is it possible? YES!

Are you ready to accept this? How are you feeling about all this?

Marg

Marg,

Thanks for your encouraging answer. By the way, my sister is named Margot, so your name sounds so familiar to me.
I have a gut feeling that Yarden's soul is here in Yoav, and lately I've been hearing songs from Space Jam - the baskektball movie with cartoon characters. Yarden loved that movie. And it came out about 5 years ago, so what's it doing on the radio all the time now?
I am glad if Yarden is back in Yoav. I hope I can live up to his expectations this time - as he is a demanding child and sometimes I don't have the patience. Maybe this time he does need me to discipline him a bit more so he can feel safer.
I feel a special warmth and connection when I am with Yoav, and if he does have some of Yarden's soul in him, well that's really ok with me. In fact, I feel much closer to life this way - after Yarden died I felt I didn't care if I died early because I'd be reunited with him, but now I want to be here to stay with both my children.

I too was very impressed with both books and I feel that reincarnation is a definite possibility. I just wish people would stop looking at me funny when I say so.

Best,

Audrey

Audry,

I am very moved by your story! I do believe that your son has reincarnated to you, and that is a wonderful thing!

But more importantly than me (or anybody else) believing it is that YOU believe it. Trust your instincts....they are NEVER wrong!

You are indeed blessed to be the mother of two sons with one soul!

Thank you for sharing.

Love,
Tamera

My daughter has shared with me her past life story, and I slowly began to recall that I was there. I died in childbirth, and stayed close to her in spirit form. She was abused and died from a beating at the age of four. She says I was there and I "got her out of there", and then she was in my belly.

Such bliss to be reunited with one's child. I did not remember until she began to tell me, so much trauma, I think, led me to block it all out. She helped me to see it was me there with her, I was the Mother who had died. Then I recalled my own nightmares when I was younger which corresponded. The other night all the emotions came back to me and I sobbed, and she held me asking what is wrong? I told her, I was there, I was there, and I couldn't hold you, and I heard it every time you cried...and I continued sobbing. "It was me!" she said happily, "I was that baby! It was me!"

I feel closer than ever to her now. The Mother and child bond is stronger even than death.

Marg