NMWolfMama
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Hello, I've been reading this forum for years, but it's my first time posting. I'm sorry if this is disjointed, I'm just trying to get down everything she's been saying.
Here's what's going on: a few weeks ago, one of my 4 year old twins started talking about her other family. At first, we thought her references to her 'other mother' and 'other father' were from the movie Coraline. She would say things like 'my other mother would do this with me'. Then, without prompting, she started adding more details. She told her father and I that her other family lives in Mexico. She says ( she always says this in present tense) that she has another mother and another father and a brother. She says her other father is a cowboy. She's told us that her brother had a toy bear, but now her brother is grown up and is a cowboy like her other father. She says her other mother wears long dresses, and that she had lots of dresses when she lived with her other family. We live in New Mexico, and when she talks about her other family, she makes it very clear that she means 'old mexico', not the New Mexico where we currently are. I asked her why she doesn't live with her other family any more. She said 'when I was still little you came and took me away'. She says her name was Feliz ( that's her name now), but she talks about a little sister named 'Leesi'. Not sure what name that might be, maybe a nickname, but she pronounces it Leesi. I've tried asking her a few questions, but she gets upset when she can't remember. I've asked her what town she lived in in Mexico, but she just answers 'mexico'. I don't think she understands the concept of towns yet. I've asked her if she knows her other mother or fathers names, but she doesn't. She has been getting very upset lately, clinging to me, breaking down in tears saying that she misses her other family. She says over and over 'I need to get back to Mexico but I don't know how' . I'm trying to be supportive of her, we've told her that we are close to Mexico and if she can remember a town, we will try to take her there to see it. She's mentioning her other family every day, several times a day, and it's really seeming to bother her. Does anyone have any advise on how I should proceed ? Thank you all
Here's what's going on: a few weeks ago, one of my 4 year old twins started talking about her other family. At first, we thought her references to her 'other mother' and 'other father' were from the movie Coraline. She would say things like 'my other mother would do this with me'. Then, without prompting, she started adding more details. She told her father and I that her other family lives in Mexico. She says ( she always says this in present tense) that she has another mother and another father and a brother. She says her other father is a cowboy. She's told us that her brother had a toy bear, but now her brother is grown up and is a cowboy like her other father. She says her other mother wears long dresses, and that she had lots of dresses when she lived with her other family. We live in New Mexico, and when she talks about her other family, she makes it very clear that she means 'old mexico', not the New Mexico where we currently are. I asked her why she doesn't live with her other family any more. She said 'when I was still little you came and took me away'. She says her name was Feliz ( that's her name now), but she talks about a little sister named 'Leesi'. Not sure what name that might be, maybe a nickname, but she pronounces it Leesi. I've tried asking her a few questions, but she gets upset when she can't remember. I've asked her what town she lived in in Mexico, but she just answers 'mexico'. I don't think she understands the concept of towns yet. I've asked her if she knows her other mother or fathers names, but she doesn't. She has been getting very upset lately, clinging to me, breaking down in tears saying that she misses her other family. She says over and over 'I need to get back to Mexico but I don't know how' . I'm trying to be supportive of her, we've told her that we are close to Mexico and if she can remember a town, we will try to take her there to see it. She's mentioning her other family every day, several times a day, and it's really seeming to bother her. Does anyone have any advise on how I should proceed ? Thank you all