Everyone thinks I'm nuts. Everyone here in my country believes we only have one life, then we die and are judged. Yet my memories are very real so I know that what they believe simply isn't true.
Yeah, loves always a complicated mess for men like me. It has been for me anyway.
My father did try to help me, I got stubborn and abrasive though, and, partly thanks to what my father told me, I've envisioned hell. Unless it was so I'd change I don't see how seeing such things are particularly helpful.
You need to look beyond your old love to the bigger picture. Once I saw the bigger picture with regards to my old love it changed everything, including stopping me pining for her.