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Advice for Parents

Anyone?

I wish more members - whose children show signs of past life memories would comment on this. Here's an excerpt -

Carol Bowman was the first person in the United States to challenge the statement that it was inappropriate for children to remember their past lives. Because she had been open to her own past life experiences and had found physical healing and relief through recalling them, Carol was sensitive to the communication of her own children about their previous lifetimes.

She listened with empathy and assured her children that the frightening events they recalled had happened in another lifetime. She told them further that they were safe now and had nothing to fear. As a result of this dialog, her son stopped being traumatized by booming noises that reminded him of a disastrous lifetime as a black soldier in the Civil War, and her daughter released a fear of being burned to death.
 
Advise for Parents whose children remember

I came across a very interesting webpage put up by Ian Stevenson's research group. It gives some good advice to parents whose children seem to be having memories.
 
You're welcome - I thought it might be helpful for parents looking for answers.
 
Many thanks for posting the link, Deborah. Just what I was looking for at the moment-I decided to do my sample chapter on Childhood, and I've got Mrs. Bowman's book on order as part of my research, and this will be very helpful as well.

Best regards,

Phoenix
 
You're welcome Phoenix. Glad you find it useful. Good luck with your endeavors. You have wonderful writing skills, so I am looking forward to your book.

I am surprised you have not already read Carol's two books. Children's Past Lives is rich with history, information, reflection and short story examples. Return from Heaven - stories full of love, forgiveness, and families reunited. Powerful stuff. :)
 
Deborah said:
You're welcome Phoenix. Glad you find it useful. Good luck with your endeavors. You have wonderful writing skills, so I am looking forward to your book.

Thanks, Deborah. It's a bit different from what I've written before, fiction and tech articles, but I hope that I can come up with something that will be useful to anyone who is remembering something they would love to forget.

Deborah said:
I am surprised you have not already read Carol's two books. Children's Past Lives is rich with history, information, reflection and short story examples. Return from Heaven - stories full of love, forgiveness, and families reunited. Powerful stuff. :)

I've read Rabbi Gershom's books (backwards, forwards and side-to-side), a couple by Brian Weiss, and the ones written by Barbara Lane where she regressed historical re-enactors. I've also read a few books of individual's stories like Threads and am currently reading Guinevere. And, Edgar Cayce, of course.

I have recommended Mrs. Bowman's books, but as they cover aspects of reincarnation that are not relevant to me (I have no children in my life, and the thought of being reunited with some of the people I've been related to in the past are enough to :eek: ) I've never had occasion to read them.

I am looking forward to reading Children's Past Lives, because now it is relevant.

Phoenix
 
HI Phoenix,

I would be interested in your thoughts about CPL -and RH if you choose to read it too. I think you will be surprised how Carol embraces so much and how her book is relevant for everyone - with or without children.
 
Deborah said:
HI Phoenix,

I would be interested in your thoughts about CPL -and RH if you choose to read it too. I think you will be surprised how Carol embraces so much and how her book is relevant for everyone - with or without children.

I'm almost finished with it (I tend to read a number of different books at once, and I've got a variety of them going now), and based on the amount of pages marked and highlighted, I found it very helpful.

Particularly the sections where she covers the other researchers/therapists. That gave me pointers on who else's books to read.

What amazed me was that children actually told their parents about those kind of things. I have always been really secretive about things. I can recall pondering reincarnation and why I couldn't remember my past lives when I was a small child, but I wouldn't discuss that subject at all with anyone outside of CPL or OLI until I told my mother when I was about 35.

I have a question, Deborah, since you know her and i don't. Is Carol open to being interviewed by other writers for quotes for their books? I'd like to find out if she has any specific advice for parents dealing with a child who remembers doing awful things to other people? I think she's the best person to ask.

Phoenix
 
I am bringing this thread to the top for new members whose children are having past life memories.

It is a wonderful reference and a good place to begin to understand the implications.......as well as the possibilities.
 
That is a good article Deborah. I like this bit:

Overall, parents often find children’s claims to remember previous lives more remarkable than do the children, for whom the apparent memories are simply part of their experience of life.
Like Phoenix I remember remembering things, but mostly kept it to myself. Unlike Phoenix I didn't know what reincarnation was, as such, as a child. Last night I was thinking about the experience of being a little kid who remembered things and tried to talk about it. This is no reflection on my mother, who just had no idea what I was experiencing, and why should she? I have spoken to her about reincarnation for the first time recently and she is still pretty bamboozled by the whole concept. :)


I remember being at the Royal Agricultural Show (like a County Fair for my American friends) and seeing a parade of bagpipes going around the arena and I could recall a battle scene in old Scotland, blood, smoke, screams, etc. and of course, the pipes brought it all back vividly to mind. I would have been about 5.


Last night I was sort of meditating on this experience and I remembered looking at my mother with big eyes and asking something like "Mummy, did you have bagpipes in the war?". She looked at me a bit oddly and said "No darling. That's a funny question". (I often asked funny questions like that and made odd observations, you can imagine). I didn't push it, knowing she probably didn't understand what I was talking about. I think the reason I asked was to check if anyone else was having a similar flashback. I could tell by the funny look she gave me she had no idea what I meant.


She might have thought I meant the Viet Nam war, which was going on at the time. Although we were carefully protected from seeing anything violent on TV and so on, and I doubt I was even more than dimly aware there was a real war going on, it did not seem at all odd to me that I should be able to remember a completely different type of war and battle, understand all about what it was and such.


I felt perfectly normal about having these memories. It didn't feel funny to me to remember being a grown up man for instance, even though I was a little girl. I thought everybody shared the same experience when I was small. Later, on going to school, I began to realise that this was not the case and gradually learned to hide any odd thoughts and 'act normal'. Growing up I began to wonder if I was a bit mad having these strange memories/thoughts! I am very pleased to report that there is nothing (very) mad about me though.


So anyway, I thought that might be interesting for parents of small children who make inexplicably odd remarks! The memories are not always to do with the child's 'other family' although that seems to be most common. Kids also don't always forget about it as they grow up. I didn't.


I was not in any way scarred by not being understood when I asked about these things as far as I know. I just kind of accepted it. It probably bothered me more as an adult than it did back then, not having anyone to talk to about it.
 
Kids also don't always forget about it as they grow up. I didn't.
I agree tanguerra, I didn't either. But I did tuck them away to sleep for quite awhile. Always there if something sparked them awake, but still always there.


I think this is very interesting. Is there any sort of study on the differences or reasons why some children keep those memories past the age of seven, and why some don't?
 
I don't know Archival. Yes, I did not think about it all constantly or anything, it just never went away. Now and again something would happen and would remind me of something else. It's just always been there.


I guess children mostly just get distracted by other more pressing matters once they start school and such. Carol would probably be the expert on this. She may venture an opinion next time she stops by.
 
Thank You Tanguerra for sharing your perspective as a small child. It is very nice to read what you thought and how you felt then.


Namaste,
 
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