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  1. Lily2015

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    I have had quite an interesting 2015 and still happening now. Please keep in mind im a very logical and realistic person, so when something wild or unexplainable happens to me im usually lik "oh weird" and brush it off.


    I met a man early last year and after meeting him I woke up. It felt like an aha moment of "where have you been, I've been looking for you" We never had a relationship but communicated on and off the past year. As i began to know him, i learned everything i said i wanted in a man he has. I did get freaked out. The signs about him have been intense and when I've told my friends they all have had said how crazy it all has been and how the universe has been pointing me to him. I have been having the craziest dreams about him, and they all seem to be settings in different eras. I went to a therapist as I didn't understand what was going on, no way I could create any of this.


    I think I had a past life memory happen where I kissed him at a dock with a huge boat, I've never kissed anyone like that and I'm in my late 30s. I thought for days who did I kiss like that, and why him? Him, looking really young. I do get anxiety by the lake, and never knew why and my reiki lady said she believes I lost my soulmate at sea. She didn't know about tgat memory. My friend son had asked me once where is my bf? I said I didn't have one, he said oh thats right, because he drowned. My friends son told me what he looked like and he was dressed just like the man in that memory. So I showed my friends son a pic of this man many weeks later and said "do you know who this is" my friends son said your bf who drowned. My friends son is 5.


    Been having dreams that are fuzzy in nature, and I've never dreamt like that. About me, I've always had vivid dreams and dream every night.


    One of the "fuzzy" dreams were about a baby in a cloth diaper, and other pregnancy baby dreams around it. About me, I miscarried several years ago and still to this day I remember, but it hasn't bothered me in years up until these dreams.


    I want to know, was this man someone I knew in past lives? Did we have a child together? Ever since I was very young I dreamt and desired a man who looked in a certain way and this guy fits the bill. And even as a little girl I loved babies like no other, and used to cry when baby cousins would leave after coming over.


    (Sorry if this is all over the place, tried giving a snapshot)
     
  2. TheCuriousOne2

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    I'll give this a whirl even though I'm no expert on past lives. You said a "huge boat" and that he was lost at sea. Could the boat have been the Titanic? The Titanic sank on its maiden voyage from England to New York in April 1912. Where did this dock memory take place, do you think? What kind of clothes were you two wearing?


    PS Welcome to the forum!
     
  3. SeaAndSky

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    Hi Lily,


    Your story will resonate with many who have memories of past lives (PLs). One of the longest and most detailed threads you will find on the board is by Tanguerra, who will probably be responding to you at some point, and relates to her friend “X”. The simple fact of the matter is that groups of people tend to be associated with each over across multiple lifetimes, this often includes lovers, sometimes in different roles—parent, child, husband, wife, friends, etc. Some of the stories that arise from this situation are very touching, and sound much like yours. In terms of suggested reading, all of Dr. Brian Weiss’ books are good, but I would particularly suggest “Only Love is Real” as it deals with two people (who had previously shared many lifetimes of love—and sometimes been tragically parted) finding each other.


    Cordially,


    S&S


    PS—You will find many “practical” people on this board. Many of us are here because, like you, there were things in our lives such as anomalous feelings, memories, dreams, phobias, traits, etc. that—whether we wanted them to or not—led us to the conclusion that reincarnation might be not only a viable hypothesis, but a fact.
     
  4. Lily2015

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    Thank you!! I'm going to get that book. I think it will help me understand better what is going on :) All the other "fuzzy" dreams, and I've had 5. Had him and this child. And I would NEVER wear a long white knight gown lol. But as for that memory that just came from no where, it was on a dock with a very large barge boat with materials on it. He had like a navy blue jacket and one of those messenger style caps, nothing conservative about what he wore. More blue collar. I couldn't see myself, but he looked younger maybe early 20s. And the dreams that are vivid, it's all different eras. Lot of boat type dreams as well. I live by the great lakes and there have been numerous shipwrecks in the great lakes over the past 19th and 20th century. I don't feel the sadness come over me by an ocean as I do with the lake.


    I have no idea who this man is that I met that brought on this major change on me, but I'm happy for it. All my dreams or wants as a child have been restored and I'm working to fulfill them. It would be nice if he could join the ride, I've never felt like this before for anyone. And as for the signs, I documented them all. Front and back of a piece of paper. It's like the universe keeps giving signs about him.
     
  5. TheCuriousOne2

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    Here is a list of Great Lakes shipwrecks from Wikipedia (please note that the list is incomplete).


    If you know the lake where your feelings are strongest, you can look down the list to see the correct ship.


    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List...he_Great_Lakes


    PS Keep it up with the signs! Make sure to write down anything, even if it seems silly at the time, later you will realize it's important.
     
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  6. tanguerra

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    Hi Lily


    Welcome to the forum.


    Yep. Sounds like a past life memory to me. The signs are all there.


    Your friend's son, being aged about 5, probably still has pretty clear past life memories. A lot of little kids to, usually up until about 7 or so when they start school and get more involved in living this life, and forget all about it. Some just keep remembering things. It's an individual thing. It's likely you knew him before which is why he recognised you and your bf, and I wouldn't be surprised also the friend. As S&S says, people do tend to hang around together from one life to the next, especially if there is a strong bond of love and/or blood. A bit like in this life, just over a more extended period.


    But, the good news is, this is normal. It's not a problem. It's a good thing and not something to be concerned about. A lot of people have 'inkles' of things and as you say brush them aside and ignore them. But, then you meet someone and bam! it all makes sense and the simplest explanation is that reincarnation happens. It certainly seems logical to me anyway.

    It sounds like he was a sailor and you were kissing him goodbye? Could be he didn't make it back from that trip? I wouldn't be too concerned about working out what ship it was or anything just yet. It would be exciting if it was the Titanic, but that's probably not the main thing right now. Just note that it was a large freighter or cargo ship of some kind?


    A word of caution. Just because you knew someone from a past life doesn't necessarily automatically mean that you are soul mates, destined to marry and live happily ever after without a care in the world. This is life. Not the movies. :) So, I don't know if you have said anything to him about all this yet. If you haven't, just keep it to yourself for now and think on it all would be my advice. Plenty of time for all that once you have had time to absorb it. Let this life unfold in its own time, while noting the things that strike an emotional cord with you.


    Starting a journal is an excellent idea. Just write things all down. By hand works best for some reason. I think it makes the brain work a bit slower or something. If and when you do get round to talking to him about all this, the journal will be a powerful tool to collect your thoughts about it.


    You might be interested in the thread Sea and Sky mentioned, My friend X, about the ups and downs of my own soul mate situation.


    http://www.reincarnationforum.com/threads/my-friend-x.1438/
     
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  7. Lily2015

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    Wow!!! This is all becoming more fascinating to me. I'm starting to think you are correct and that his was his last voyage. And maybe in this lifetime my soul still mourns for him? Maybe I need to look into more on how to get over it? You are correct, I have read that soul mates does not mean marriage and live happily ever after. I recently had a chakra balance and this woman kep talking about the man with a boat, and how his presence in my aura and we are soul connected. However, she did say he would come back to me once I fixed my issues. Another psychic told me "the one" is going to come around or realize this and come back. I really try to not let any of this dictate my life. But when I see all the signs and have these dreams makes it a little hard to forget. I try to be positive that the universe is giving me reminders to stay on track and to fix me and just be a better person.


    I still date other men and planning things for me. I think what is bothering me more is the baby. Is it possible that the miscarriage of the baby years ago wants to return? My friends son said I'd have my baby by march, out of the blue. I talked to my friend (his mother) about getting a sperm donor.
     
  8. tanguerra

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    We tend to remember the most pivotal moments of our past lives, just as we remember the pivotal, or exciting, or important ones of the present life. The memory tends to work that way. The feelings are the same. Emotions are key to memory.

    Well, you never know. But I would not be making any big decisions about babies or anything right now personally. (But hindsight is great like that).


    Something is obviously going on between you. However, first things first. One step at a time. :)

    Relax. I know it's easy to say and hard to do, but if you are 'soul mates' (however you interpret that) that's great. Get to know each other again this time. You have all the time in the world. Try to enjoy it. :)
     
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    Take a deep breath. This is a beautiful start. Enjoy it for what it is!


    Things that are meant to be do not need to be forced into existence. When you rush, it's easy to run into traps created by imagined projections based on the hints and clues. And those imagined projections can actually derail or even block your intuition (and ability to sense danger) if you're not careful.


    Note: You're probably not thinking this way, but keep in mind that children are not solutions to life problems. (They usually just make them even more apparent and make the need to face any personal instability vital for survival instead of merely important and necessary for growth.) If you're unstable emotionally or financially somehow, then insist that any future child can wait till you are more able to support them properly and have a solid community to back you up while raising them. Just let them know you want to ensure that they won't suffer for arriving in your life before you're ready to anchor their growth both emotionally and practically.


    It sounds like you have at least two people in your life who you knew before. Both the man and the child. It's always special when you meet someone that familiar, isn't it? Take your time. Sometimes our most treasured and closest soul mates end up taking on roles other than the "romantic" story line our culture loves to put on a pedestal. It's okay to find out where they fit best over time. You might be surprised.
     
  10. SeaAndSky

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    Hi Lilly,


    You beat me to it in terms of your comment re the Great Lakes. I come from a maritime family in the South and worked on harbor tugs between college and grad school. When you first described his attire, I knew he was most likely either an offshore sailor or an inland guy from the NE/Great Lakes region. (Southern inland guys on barge boats/tugs don't tend to dress that way). Anyhow, tell me more about the boat/barge you saw when you get a chance. I may be able to help you pin something down based on appearance, etc.


    Cordially,


    S&S
     
  11. Obie

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    Have you thought of asking the little boy as to how he remembers you and your boyfriend and what his relation to both of you was. This might give you more insight into your PL.


    Maybe the man from the PL is supposed to father your child. I would advise atleast waiting until you meet him to decide on having a child. Having a child is not something to rush into.
     
  12. Lily2015

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    I never thought to ask him that, we always thought he talked non sense up until he predicted his sisters birth before the mom was pregnant. But that is a good idea to ask him, I just keep telling my friend that her son is gifted. He wpuld talk to her and say things to her about her childhood. I started Journaling my dreams to see how this could help me. I even found a past life regression therapist in the area that I was thinking to go see. I have some issues that keep resurfacing and it's annoying and my anxiety gets so bad. My heart rate will be high and I'll have a toght/sore chest for months. As well as other ailments in my body that go away. Lavendar is the only thing that has helped me calm down.


    As for that man, I've already met him. But no relationship. We just kind of get in touch here and there. I suspected a few times either he was involved with someone but he doesn't tell me that. Nor would I even dare tell him about the dreams and signs of him.
     
  13. tanguerra

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    A past life regression by a good professional is a great idea. If you are having these anxiety type issues, it's certainly possible that they could be connected to a past life. It would certainly be interesting in any case.


    Just keep things how they are with the guy for now. But if you run into him, just be friendly and have a chat with him. You never know.... he might be single. It might be that he and you have history together, and perhaps also a future. One step at a time. Let things unfold.
     

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