RedSunshine
Senior Member
Is there a sign that will make you know if you're currently with the right partner? Can you share some relationship tips on finding the "RIGHT ONE" for you?
I think this is a very good point. People often focus on the "life-long, true love" ideal, but it can be just as valuable a life calling to work through a series of relationships.I think you always are with the right person. For that moment.
There is a huge difference between passion and compatibility. Many of the past life connections for which you feel passion will not be compatible with you in this present life.
Sometimes we meet people because we need them temporarily, like a temporary service we offer each other in a lifetime. Needing or being needed is a transaction based on lack, and once the need is filled and growth accomplished the relationship often ends.
When you find yourself thinking "if only [...]" a lot, then it's probably a sign that the relationship isn't customized for this particular lifetime or at least not anytime soon. Just because you were good together in a different life doesn't mean that this life will allow you to resonate in the same way.
Lasting, healthy relationships are based on actual, lived experience with each other, not clinging what could be "if only" something in them/you/space/time was different.
The best way to figure out if someone is a good long-term partner is to take your time. Wait out the initial state when passion manipulates your brain into seeing everything through rose colored glasses. Don't make long term commitments during that time because you're far more likely to give up things that are really important to you in order to keep the addictive feeling you get when you're with them. Until you are comfortable with the idea that you're stable with or without the relationship, you're not going to make wise decisions.
Watch carefully for conflict or alignment between your moral guidelines, lifestyles, social preferences, friendship patterns, future goals, home care preferences, teamwork skills, and other elements that shape how you live day to day. More important than anything, keep an eye on how well your conflict resolution methods blend and on how willing you both are to view relationships as a personalized educational experience, meant to fuel growth. There is a stability within mutual attraction, appreciation, communication, respect, and trust.
A healthy relationship starts when both (not just one) naturally contribute from their own abundance, creating a synergy that consistently brings out the best in each other without derailing either from their own life purpose.
I agree with Ken. If you want your relationship to be more interesting the only way to accomplish that is to experiment and try new things as individuals and as a couple. Activities and learning experiences done separately become conversation material and you get to teach each other a little of what you've learned and tell stories. When you join them together you get to work on learning and making progress as a team.
Basically, "be the fun you want to see in your relationship!" ... Yes, I totally stole that quote and just changed the words around.
I believe in keeping things clear and simple:Is there a sign that will make you know if you're currently with the right partner? Can you share some relationship tips on finding the "RIGHT ONE" for you?